Title: Advice about family in laws
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Blog Entry: Hiya everyoneee! I feel like I haven't been on for forever ;u; well as everyone knows I got married ^_^ and unfortunately had to move in with his parents until we got on our own two feet. Now I REALLY need advice. This is going to be a long one so sit back, grab yourself a snack and if you enjoy TL;DR segments this isn't for you. Here goes: I really do not like my husbands mother and father. They take advantage of my poor husband (who is the kindest, sweetest man in the world). We moved in with them last year after my husband was laid off, and at first everything was fine; and don't get me wrong I truly appreciate them letting us live here but at what damn cost?! His mother is the laziest, most idiotic person on this damn planet. She has fibromyalgia, which I truly believe is a real disorder but in her case its an excuse to get out of doing anything requiring her to get out of bed. She'll drink her ass off, sleep all day she quit her job because she was in "oh so much pain". I mean seriously, she sat on her ass all day on a computer making a lot of money. She was the bread winner of her household, and now that she quit her job her family is suffering. She is totally fine when she has the opportunity to go out to eat or drink, but the minute dishes need washed, or the floor needs cleaned we hear "OMG my body hurts. Feel sorry for me. whine, bitch and moan some more." I have recently found out that I have severe MS and even stilll I get crap done, if I am in pain or not. Literally all she does is sleep, drink, eat like a pig and go out with friends. This woman weighs close to 400 pounds and always complains about her weight, I've asked her to go jogging with me but the same ol' excuse pops up. His father nags ALL THE TIME. I have never seen a man nag more than he does (I didn't think it was genetically possible for men to nag!). I had surgery and I was supposed to be on bed rest for 2 weeks and his father barges into our bedroom literally the day after and demands that I work on their garden. His father also lectures us, at least once a week, about how my husband and I don't get out enough. We have told him that we do not have the money, and we are trying to save every penny. This man is such an idiot that it goes in one ear and out the other. Anyway, his family has this thing where they don't flush the toilet after shitting or pissing, oh and they don't clean, or cook (I do all of the cooking), or try and watch what they spend so they can pay their bills. They'll leave lights on, tv's on when no one is in the room, oh and they also just got their son Gamefly, and they are now subscribing to all these really expensive sports channels. Now my husband and I are stuck paying their bills because they are just complete brain deprived retards. We just got married and we are trying to save up so that we can get our own place, but now thanks to them it is impossible. My husband is stuck cleaning their dishes, and buying groceries for them (we get $300 a month from his unemployment) and they DEMAND that we buy groceries for them even though we have our own bills to pay. If we don't we get lectured like 12 year old children. We never have privacy, and they constantly talk about how great Florida is and how we should stay here. He and I HATE Florida, and I have stated the reasons (all pretty damn legitimate) why to them and they act like it is the greatest state in the US. They blame us for their roach infestation, even though they'll leave food out for days on end, they leave cups of soda, juice and whatever just lying around but its my husbands and my fault. Our room is the cleanest in the house. Good thing we are moving in a few months because I have had it with these people. I hate, hate, HATE his parents! I don't know how to handle this for much longer. I have now been diagnosed with severe depression because of his family. I cry almost every day. Anyone who knew me before this knows I am usually a positive, and happy person. Believe me there is so much more that they have done...I don't know how to explain it but it seems like his mother wants to interfere in our marriage, by constantly dragging him away from me to do something with her, and I know its only because she doesn't want us to be happy. Its disturbing how much attention she wants from him. He'll pretty much tell her off saying he would rather spend time with me (I truly do have an awesome hubby). She nags on a daily basis about him playing video games, but I don't mind his video game habit at all and its not like he plays them every day. In fact, I have an awesome time playing with him! He's sort of holding off on finding a job for now until we can move, which I told him I understand. He was in the military so I believe he fully deserves to have some time to just relax. I mean she's allowed to just sit on her ass and get permanent disability, my husband served a term in Iraq, almost died and she barely shows him any respect. I've told him repeatedly that I do not appreciate her demeaning attitude towards him. He separated for health reasons and his doctor pretty much ordered him to take a relaxing vacation. The weirdest thing that has happened was that she gave him a birthday card with a very...odd paragraph that she wrote saying "no matter what, your mom is your first love, first kiss, and no one can take that away." I didn't say anything but my DH threw the card into our filing cabinet not giving it another thought. About the electric bill, I have told him we should really only pay half because out of everyone we use the least amount. I understand his family needs help, but I truly feel like they are taking advantage of my husband. My family in law doesn't know we are moving yet because we both know they will try and stop us, plus we are not 100% sure when we can move until the VA sends him his disability check, but my DH is keeping me going and the thought of getting out of here is what is keeping me at least, a little sane.
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