so me and my boyfriend alan had been dating for 1 1/2 years and we just broke up about an hour ago. i basically broke up with him but im still really upset. here's the situation: he told me last night on the phone we are going to get together today (thurs) and watch a movie and then tommorow we're going out to the movies (on fri) and seeing baby mama. well i text him today and say so when are you coming over and he says soon but i couldnt find the movie at blockbuster so im like okay ill go out and get it at family video and get cupcake batter so we can bake together and hes like okay then he says that him and three of his friends are getting together tommorow and im like uhm hello?? you told me we were going to the movies tommorow and hes like "oh well i dont remember saying yes, i remember saying maybe" and im like no i'm 210% sure you said we ARE going and hes all like well whens the last time i got to see them blah blah blah and im like helloooooo you said you were fecking taking me out so you better take me out and he said "youre taking this way too seriously. you're taking US too seriously" i said "well alan i dont know about you but almost two years of my life with you is pretty fecking serious to me" and hes all like "if youre going to base our relationship on a few misunderstandings then what good is it?" i told him this isnt a misunderstanding alan, you didnt keep your word to me and youre choosing your friends over me like you've done many times before and probably always will do. and he said "maybe im just too busy for us" and i said well if youd keep your word you wouldnt have this problem you jackass i am so done and over with you im not taking your dumbass little excuses and shiznit anymore, i deserve so much better.

anyways.. thank you if you read that.. i'm just really upset and needed to vent. but what i want to know is if you think i'm right or he is or what you think i should or shouldnt have said.. i just need to talk to someone really

I think you did the correct thing here - your exBF was basically waiting for an excuse to get out of the relationship. Consider it done - you are much better off without him. Don't fret but move on. You will feel much better in a few days.

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Happy to be a Red

Yeah, I'm on your side. 

Basically if the dude says he wants to go to the movies and it was HIS idea, and then he drops it the next day then he must not care that much about you.  The proper way he should've handled it was to just ask "Hey girl, would you mind rescheduling this movie thing for possibly another day?  I really want to go to the movies with you but some friends of mine I haven't seen in a while have invited me somewhere and I'd like to see them.  Let's do it on Saturday or Sunday."

It's not cool to just pop it on you when u assumed u had some plans.  I'd say he's not worth it.

Hey, you want to go to the movies with me?

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Pelirrojophilia

you are young and very pretty - I am sure you will have no problem landing another guy.  Keep in mind at your age, guys your age are about 3-5 years younger, mentally maturity , than you. 

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STILL UNDER CONSTRUCTION

You did the right thing. He was being a jerk. By his response it sounded like he was pretty much not into the relationship anymore.

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Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.

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My hair is my best asset

he's not worth your time
silly boy!

he was gonna hang with you. but then
hang with his other friends.guys.

if he was basically setting you aside
after he HAD officially planned to
hang with you. and hang with his
friends instead.

i really dont' know everything that happened
but

id' just say he's dumb  and not worth it

do hOPEE everythingg works ouTT!! :D
you deserve MUCH BETTER!!

have a great weekendd!!

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Dancing at discos, EATING cheese on Toast, yeah you make me merry make me very very happy, but you obviously, you DIDN"T want to stick around. -kate nash

oh and sorry to hearr about.
hope it isnt' to painful :)

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Dancing at discos, EATING cheese on Toast, yeah you make me merry make me very very happy, but you obviously, you DIDN"T want to stick around. -kate nash

i agree you did the right thing two years is a long time and you are taking it to serious hello that is serious you wasted two years on this guy...... as pretty as you are you should have no trouble at all finding someone else

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I am unwritten,can't read my mind, i'm undefined, I'm just beginning, the pen's in my hand, ending unplanned Staring at the blank page before you Open up the dirty window Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find

Absolutly done the right thing! If his mates are more important than you, then you know where you stand on his list of priorities! Take a break from dating, have some fun, and the one who is right for you, will most definetly sweep you off your feet, and make you number 1 x

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