Love is handing your heart to someone and taking the risk that they will hand it back because they don't want it. That's why it's such a crushing ache on the inside. We gave away part of ourselves and it wasn't wanted.
Love is a giving away of power. When we love, we give the other person the power in the relationship. They can do what they choose. They can do what they like with our love. They can reject it, they can accept it, they can step towards us in gratitude and appericiation.
Love is a giving away. When we love, we put ourselves out there, we expose ourselves, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable.
Love is a giving up control. It's surrendering the desire to control the other person. These two - Love and controling power over the other person - are mutually exclusive. If we are serious about loving someone, we have to surrender all of the desires within us to manipulate the relationship.
*this was a little tid bit from the book I'm reading right now called Sex God and it's written by Rob Bell. He just had a write up in HM Magazine if any one you folks read that. I just thought this was pretty much amazing and it really explains myself to me, of why I don't feel that I have emotions, it's because I don't let myself truly love and be vulnerable to anyone.. well, maybe it's time to change and give love a try and put myself out there. Take a risk, and love.
